|The most dangerous thing you'll ever see on a boat|
But calendars aren't dangerous just to our physical selves, while we're living aboard. Sticking to a calendar can rob you of opportunities to feed the soul too. What if leaving when planned instead of staying in port an extra few days meant you wouldn't be able to attend a cool festival happening next weekend, or stick around to cement a friendship with a fascinating person you just met, another cruiser who ironically arrived the day before you scheduled to go?
The biggest danger of the calendar, though, happens while we're living in one place for a while. The calendar invites us to fill our days and we build up a list of things to do. Some are cool things, like getting together with friends to try a new restaurant, or signing up to volunteer for a worthy cause. Some are important parts of adulting, like going to work, or dentist appointments or doing our taxes. And some are just flat-out busy-ness of modern life in a city, buying groceries and doing laundry and replying to emails and shopping and spending and juggling. Soon, every single day has a to-do, or multiple to-dos, planned. And then there's no time left for spontaneity, for watching a sunset or getting lost in a novel or listening to bird songs or helping a neighbor. Sara, in her blog Wondertime says it so articulately:
...the best days are not the ones where I get the most things done. The best days are the ones without a list leading the way, where we just let the day unfold and explore the world however we feel that day and let whatever happens, happen. They are the days when we take the time to wonder.Of course, its unrealistic to expect never to have plans or schedules or to-dos on the calendar. Still, it's nice to strike a balance and resist unnecessary structure. The name of our species is an important reminder -- we're human beings, not human doings.